Before getting to her findings, let’s review some of the cohabitation trends she highlights in her report (based on prior studies): Guzzo notes, as have others, that cohabiting has become a normative experience in the romantic and sexual lives of young adults.
As young adults put off marriage until later in life, cohabitation has inhabited much of the space that used to be made up of married couples.
Rather, on average, "Relative to cohabitations formed between 19, cohabitations formed from 1995–1999, 2000–2004, and 2005 and later were 13%, 49%, and 87%, respectively, more likely to dissolve than remain intact.
The lower risk of marriage over remaining intact occurred only for the last two cohabitation cohorts (2000–20 and later), which were about 18% and 31% less likely to marry than remain intact, respectively." Moving in together is becoming less and less likely to lead to having a future together.
Commitments are fundamentally times where we making a choice to give up other choices.So some people get stuck in a relationship they would otherwise have not remained in.) Based on both findings and theory, I have long argued that if a couple tells you they are cohabiting and you know nothing else, you know very little about their level of commitment.Cohabitation is fundamentally ambiguous.[vi] In fact, that is part—but just part—of why I believe it has become so popular.But, as a colleague argued before he passed on (sociologist Steven Nock), in the current environment, marriage is going to become an even stronger marker or signal of high commitment.Family inequality in terms of social and economic capital is going to grow more extreme around the great divide of marriage--not because marriage is magical but because commitment is powerful. Item one above encompasses what you ask about not wanting to commit.